The groom made the difficult decision after his mom went behind the couple’s back and invited the bride’s estranged father to their nuptials.

He won plenty of support after sharing his account of what happened to Reddit, but one expert has urged caution when it comes to uninviting someone from a wedding.

Wedding planning can be both expensive and stressful. In fact, a study commissioned by Stillwhite.com and conducted by OnePoll found that the experience was so overwhelming that around six in 10 couples who married in 2021 seriously considered eloping.

The groom posting to Reddit under the handle Independent_Foot8485 might also be reconsidering his options after what has unfolded in the run-up to his big day.

According to the social media post, while both he and his fiancee are in a good place and looking forward to getting married, his mom’s actions have put a dampener on proceedings.

The bride has not spoken with her father since she was 15 and “even before he hadn’t played an important role in her life” following years of mistreatment.

As a result, the bride had no plans to invite him to the wedding. However his mother, who is a retired psychologist, felt she would benefit from “children-parent reunification.”

Despite stressing to her that the bride’s dad “was not to know anything about my financees life nor would be welcome anywhere near the wedding” during a family dinner, the mom revealed she had contacted and invited him to the wedding.

Her son was furious, telling her it was “inappropriate” and said she had hurt his fiancee “terribly by stepping over the one boundary she ever had.”

Dismayed at her actions, he decided to uninvite his mom from the wedding there and then with the couple leaving soon after. It’s a decision that has left his mom “inconsolable” and desperate to make amends while his family feel his decision has been “too drastic.”

But with his soon-to-be-wife uneasy at the prospect of her dad making an appearance on the big day, the groom appears loath to change his mind.

However, etiquette writer Karen Cleveland urged caution when it comes to uninviting someone from a wedding. Cleveland told Newsweek: “Uninviting someone to a wedding shouldn’t be taken lightly. It would, I expect, really change the terms of a relationship.”

For Cleveland, clear, honest and respectful communication is key to the process going as well as can be expected. She said: “If someone is considering uninviting a person from their wedding, it should be done with respect and tact, in the most personal means you can—in person, or by phone.”

In the case of this particular Reddit post though, many online felt the groom had been right to act as ruthlessly as he did. “She may be a retired psychologist but she showed the emotional intelligence of soggy bread,” CrystalQueen3000 said. “What a huge violation of your fiancée’s boundaries.”

“That kind of betrayal would be enough for me to consider going no contact with my mum,” StrongBlueBerry5432 added. “It wasn’t just a small mistake or an oversight. It was a deliberate action to trample boundaries and to push an agenda you had made very clear you and your fiancee had no desire to pursue.”

Agreeable-Celery811, meanwhile, suggested they simply elope. “You can tell your mother that she turned the idea of the whole wedding into a nightmare situation for both of you, and that you guys are just going to get married and repair the damage and your sense of safety now,” they wrote.

Newsweek contacted Independent_Foot8485 for comment but could not verify the details.